Fromm describes the value of secure attachment, explaining that for a child, “the mother is warmth, the mother is food, the mother is a euphoric state of satisfaction and security” ( Fromm, 38). As they grow, children learn to love and be loved through this relationship. The experience of being loved as a child is described as “passive” because “there is nothing that I [the child] have to do to be loved” (Fromm, 39). Love, as a child may have learned, can only be received and "cannot be acquired, produced, controlled", but the "capacity to love" can be developed; this usually appears in children starting at the age of eight (Fromm, 40). In a healthy learning journey, children learn that “love is not primarily a relationship with a specific person; it is an attitude, an orientation of character that determines a person's relationship with the world as a whole, not with an “object” of love” (Fromm, 46). Children will have serious difficulties – especially with their ability to love and be loved – if they are deprived of a comforting and present caregiver in their early years of life..