Although a man had a title to himself if he was not in control of his wife and children, he was not considered a real man, "No matter how prosperous was a was a man, if he was not able to govern these women and his children, he was not truly a man(53)”. Igbo men hold high power, which is why the nine sons and three wives of Okonkwo were often terrified by his anger. Okonkwo struggles with his prominent attitude that men are more important than women because he fears not being successful and resembling his father, Unoka, who he calls an "Unoka woman". of his death was lazy, irresponsible and weak, as he was known to possess money for others Achebe uses Unoka as an example that he was not manly or did not earn a worthy title, which is not considered a true man strict about the belief that all men should be strong, even when Okonkwo wanted to compassionately care for others he couldn't because they would mistake it for weakness. For example, when Okonkwo wanted to save Ikemefuna from death, Achebe states, he could not do it because he is too proud and being strong for the men of Umofia is not just a characteristic but a way of life. Okonkwo has no problem letting go of his son Nwoye because he chose the Catholic religion over what his father believed in.