“People who come from dysfunctional families are not destined for a dysfunctional life” - (Bo Bennett). In today's society dysfunctional homes have been a big problem in the United States. Many people hope that once they leave home they will leave their family and childhood problems behind. However, many people find that they experience similar problems, as well as similar feelings and relationship patterns, long after they leave the familiar environment. In the eyes of Americans today, children grow up in family environments that help them feel useful, valuable, and valued by their family. According to experts at the University of Illinois: “Ideally, children grow up in family environments that help them feel useful and valuable. They learn that their feelings and needs are important and can be expressed. Children who grow up in such supportive environments are more likely to form healthy, open relationships in adulthood” (Counseling Center). Today, children in the United States learn that their feelings and needs are important and can be expressed through many different forms of communication. Children who grow up in these supportive environments are more likely to form healthy, open relationships in adulthood. However, in today's society some families are unable to meet many of their children's emotional and physical needs. As some people have observed, the communication patterns between the family and the child have severely limited the expressions of the child's feelings and needs: “A dysfunctional family is a family in which people feel out of control, feel frustrated and angry who I am with. and what they have become life of point, they would be a dysfunctional family is a family that has no attachments... middle of paper... there is no such thing as a perfect family, so never stop working and always strive for more. Works Cited “Bo Bennett Quote.” Clever quote. Xplore and Web. April 2014. "Counseling Center » Understanding Dysfunctional Relationship Patterns in Your Family." Counseling Center » Understanding dysfunctional relationship patterns in your family. University of Illinois, 2007. Web. 18 February 2014. Hartwell-Walker, Marie, Ed D. “Why Dysfunctional Families Stay That Way.” Because dysfunctional families stay that way. Pysch Central, January 17, 2000. Web. February 11, 2014. "John Bradshaw." Newsmaker. Detroit: Gale, 1992. Discover the collection. Network. February 11, 2014.Lewis, Max. Personal interview. February 20, 2014. “Santa Clara University.” - The Wellness Center. Kansas State University, 1997. Web. February 17, 2014. Watson, Larry. Montana 1948. New York: Washington Square Press, 1993. Print.